How can I make accepting care at home feel like my parent’s choice?

Offer options instead of instructions. Ask what part of the day feels hardest, what kind of help would feel acceptable, and what they would want to stay exactly the same. You can suggest a shortlist, such as help with meals, bathing, company, or chores, and invite them to choose what to try first. Giving your parent time to think is also important. Not everyone can agree on the spot, especially if the idea feels emotional. If possible, involve them in practical details like visit times and routines. The more control they feel they have, the less likely support will feel imposed. Choice is often the difference between resistance and cooperation.