How do I talk to siblings about sharing elderly care responsibilities?

Start with facts rather than frustration. Explain what your relative currently needs each week, how much time those tasks take and which parts are becoming difficult to manage alone. It helps to be specific. Instead of saying, “I need more help,” say, “Could you take over prescription collection every Friday?” or “Can you call after dinner on Tuesdays and Thursdays?” Some relatives may not be able to provide hands-on support, but they may help financially, arrange appointments, order groceries online or handle paperwork. A shared document or group chat can stop miscommunication and help everyone see the bigger picture. The goal is not perfect equality but a fair split based on each person’s capacity, location and confidence.