What is the best way to organise care for elderly relatives between siblings?

The best approach is to divide care by specific responsibilities rather than relying on informal promises. One sibling may be better placed to manage appointments and prescriptions, while another can handle finances, shopping orders or weekend visits. Even relatives who live farther away can still help by arranging transport, paying bills online, ordering groceries or making regular check-in calls. It also helps to use one shared record for updates so everyone can see what has been done. This reduces misunderstandings and prevents important jobs being missed. Be realistic about work schedules, distance, childcare and emotional capacity. Fair does not always mean equal. It means each person contributes in a way that supports the older relative consistently and reduces pressure on the main carer.